As I mentioned below, the main response from many across social and regular media has been “just get over it”, as if Britain leaving the EU isn’t the single most important, permanent and life-changing thing this country has done in two generations. So, below is my response to such people.

Date: 26th June

So, now we’ve had the reaction, we’ve had the counter-reaction. And it basically consists of “lulz, u lost, democracy” , and “sour grapes, get over it”

Here why such reactions are fundamentally wrong.

Or rather, why is Remain-ers are legitimately seething with sadness and rage.

Think of it like the difference between being talked into going to a club-night and going to a gig.

1) You and your friends are walking through town and are given a flyer for a cheesy pop night.

It promises Spice Girls, Boyzone and more. Now, you hate cheesy pop, but your friends seem keen. You point out that there’s a reason you stopped listening to that music, and the last time you went to a similar night it ended up awful, and that you all hate some of the songs. But your friends tell you that it’s been a while, maybe it’ll be good, similar nights did play some good songs last time that got the dance floor going. And it’s only £5 entry so what’s the harm.

This is a general election.

An example of representative democracy. While we may vote on specific polices, we’re also fundamentally voting on theme. No one can predict what will happen for the next 5 years, so we choose the party that fits us over all. I.e. if you believe that the successful members of society should help the less successful, even if it’s the latters own fault, you vote Labour. They will lean towards that response to whatever arises. I.e. while there may be specific songs you like/dislike, you “know what you are getting”. You’re deciding who, on average, represents the way you want your country to react to the world. You are voting on how the Government will respond to 5 years of unknown events.

There is no real ‘right’ answer to this; it is personal morality or taste. And in 2 years there are local elections, in 5 a general election. I.e. you can change my mind with minimal cost if you chose the wrong club. So it’s not that expensive. This is the point. In the long run making a mistake is not that costly.

This referendum was not like that.

2) Imagine that instead of a club-night, someone hands you a flyer to a secret gig. It promises that Muse will be playing and entry is £200.

Now, your friends are excited, a chance to see Muse. Finally. But, you’re on the Muse’s twitter and RSS feed. You tell your friends that, according to their schedule, Muse should be playing festivals in the Far East. In fact, Matt Bellemy recently broke his wrist stage diving at the last show. You show them the photo he tweeted from a Tokyo hospital.

What’s more, you point out that Muse swore never to play in the UK again years ago. You show your friends the video interview where they said this.

But your friends don’t believe you, they ask why anyone would produce a leaflet that would lie, and say that it’s “only £200” to see one of the world’s greatest live acts. You will never have this chance again. It’s worth the risk. All your friends decide to go, and because you’re staying with one of them, you have pay your money. It turns out to be a crappy tribute band.

That is the referendum.

It asked a specific question: Are Muse playing? Are we better off in the EU or out of it. This is a single question, not a ‘theme’. We’re not asking what will happen over the course of the night, but who will show up on stage at the beginning. You’re not making a decision because “on average it’ll be enjoyable” like a club, you want to see a specific band. Is it Muse or isn’t it. You may assume that Muse will play certain songs, but in the end it’s Muse you want to see.

You personally have access to all the facts and data, and tell people this is how it is. I.e. while there is a chance Muse ‘might’ be there, all the evidence points to the contrary.

But none of your friends believe you and now you’re down £200 with no way to get it back. And no way of really seeing Muse as this offer was nothing to do with them in the first place. You don’t get to “try again” for Muse Tickets, there was no Muse to see.

And you’re angry. You showed your friends firm and conclusive evidence that Muse weren’t playing. But they just refused to believe you, because the leaflet’s offer was just too tempting to refuse. And everyone is down £200. And suddenly everyone realises that they needed the £200 for the rent next week.

This is the difference.

This is why so many people are angry or upset after the “decision was made”.

Because the nature of the referendum meant it was never a choice of “what you feel like tonight” but of “what will or will not happen”.

You can delude yourself that somehow your decision “would send a message” to Muse about “how much the UK loved them”, at it may have done. There’s a chance, seeing how desperate their fans are, Muse may decide to play gigs in the UK again. But in there here and now, all your decision did was give the con-men your money.

This is why we’re angry.

Not because we think you have “bad taste” in music, but because your decision was based on evidence that, had you looked at it for a second, would have convinced you otherwise.

Now, you may love Muse, you may WANT to see them live again desperately. The problem is, even though your intentions may have been pure: all you wanted was to do was see Muse live, you wanted feel like “you were taking control back”, you were willing to believe the most obvious lies and distortions of reality.

That’s why we’re still angry. Because we know that, for the vast majority of Leave voters, you won’t get what you were voting for. We tried to tell you Muse weren’t coming. You didn’t listen.

We didn’t tell you the music would be shit, we told you Muse wouldn’t be playing.

It wasn’t a matter of taste, it was a matter of fact. And your refusal to see has cost, and will cost, us all dearly.

And that is very, very, frustrating.